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Life is constantly changing around us, in us, through us, and about us. It's inevitable that there are going to be changes throughout life. Some will be good, some bad, and some indifferent. Some you like, some you hate, and some just don't matter.


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Sadness can become a very enriching experience. You have to work on it. It is easy to escape from your sadness - and all relationships ordinarily are escapes; one simply goes on avoiding it. And it is always there underneath... the current continues. Even in relationship it erupts many times. Then one tends to throw the responsibility on the other, but it is not the real thing. It is your loneliness, your own sadness. You have not settled with it yet, so it will erupt again and again.

You can escape in work. You can escape in some occupation, in relationship and society, this and that, in travelling, but it is not going to go way, because it is part of your being.

Every man is born alone - in the world, but alone; comes through the parents, but alone. And every man dies alone, again moves out of the world alone. And between these two lonelinesses we go on deceiving and fooling ourselves. It is good to take courage and enter into this loneliness. However hard and difficult it may look in the beginning, it pays tremendously. Once you settle with it, once you start enjoying it, once you feel it not as sadness but as silence, once you understand that there is no way to escape, you relax.

Nothing can be done about it, so why not enjoy it?  Why not go into it deeply and have a taste of it, see what it is? Why be unnecessarily afraid? If it is going to be there and it is a fact - existential, not accidental - then why not come to terms with it? Why not move into it and see what it is?

Whenever you feel sad, sit silently and allow sadness to come; don't try to escape from it. Make yourself as sad as you can. Don't avoid it - that's the one thing to remember. Cry, weep... have the whole taste of it. Cry to death... fall down on the earth... roll -- and let it go by itself. Don't force it to go; it will go, because nobody can remain in a permanent mood.

When it goes you will be unburdened, absolutely unburdened, as if the whole gravitation has disappeared and you can fly, weightless. That is the moment to enter yourself. First bring sadness. The ordinary tendency is not to allow it, to find some ways and means so that you can look somewhere else - to go to the restaurant, to the swimming pool, meet friends, read a book or go to a movie, play a guitar - to do something, so that you can be engaged and you can put your attention somewhere else.

This is to be remembered - when you are feeling sad, don't lose the opportunity. Close the doors, sit down, and feel as sad as you can, as if the whole world is just a hell. Go deep into it... sink into it. Allow every sad thought to penetrate you, every sad emotion to stir you. And cry and weep and say things -- say them loudly, there is nothing to worry about.

So first live sadness for a few days, and the moment that momentum of sadness goes, you will feel very calm, peaceful - as one feels after a storm. In that moment sit silently and enjoy the silence that is coming on its own. You have not brought it; you were bringing sadness. When sadness goes, in the wake, silence settles.

Listen to that silence. Close your eyes. Feel it... feel the very texture of it... the fragrance. And if you feel happy, sing, dance.
 
~ OSHO

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My Observations About Money and Health Care

~ An Open Letter To My Practice Members ~

 
About ten years ago I remember putting off needed dental care which I was required to pay out-of-pocket since I did not carry dental insurance. I rationalized this by using the financial hardship excuse to convince myself and my dentist that I needed to postpone this care for a later date.  By the way, during this time I spent a few thousand dollars on a vacation to Arizona that I could have easily postponed, as well as a new car lease which was also not immediately necessary.  Needless to say (bet you can guess what comes next) about a month later, in the middle of this vacation, a horrible toothache started which became worse each day and virtually ruined the rest of my trip.
 
The neglected dental situation wound up costing me eight times what the preventive expense would have been. This included three root canals, two tooth extractions, a dental bridge, and additional cavity and gum treatment. Wow… what a painful wake up call!  Suffice to say, I now visit my dentist 3 - 4 times a year for prevention and maintenance care and thereby avoid future financial burdens by caring for potential problems early on, rather then fixing expensive, chronic, and more difficult situations later. I was furious with myself. What happened to my plain old common sense and discernment?
Lesson learned the hard way for Dr. Freddy.
 
Doctors in my own profession see this rampant neglect on a daily basis and what is so distressing for the patient to experience, and us doctors to witness (obviously) is not only the short-term suffering, but the long-term degenerative effects that manifest within our most crucial biological life-line – our spine and nervous system.
 
The ‘Penny Wise-Pound Foolish’ proverb certainly comes to mind, and is one of the most self-evident realities we experience in life in many ways.  It’s funny (actually weird and depressing) how most of us will bring our vehicles in for essential maintenance & prevention services (oil, brakes, wipers, belts, tires, fluids, etc..) a few times a year – and pay those expenses out-of-pocket – long before any of these components break down or cause ‘symptoms’. Yet we rarely make that important connection with our own physical well-being!  Especially regarding our crucial spinal system.  It's still so hard after so many years in practice to wrap my head around that.  Do we really care more about the health of our cars then our own bodies, and those of our children?
Quite baffling, indeed.
 
There is a curious thing my colleagues and I have noticed over the years regarding tendencies and attitudes many people have with reference to their health care and finances.  Ironically, this at times even includes us, those who are making the observations – as my own story above illustrates.  So therefore, please know that what I express here is without arrogance, condescension, or a presumptive disposition at all, merely an attempt to address something that has perplexed me since I opened my office over 30 years ago.
I’m sure social scientists have found it quite puzzling, illogical, troubling, and at times humorous the manner in which we humans decide priorities. When studying people’s buying habits there are a few general patterns that emerge.

There’s an old saying that goes, and I paraphrase; “When someone deeply desires and values something they will usually find the time, money, energy, and persistence to  obtain it, come what may.”
 
Of course this is not an absolute reality (what in life is?) – but this certainly is widely recognized in our society even when personal time and money is limited, as in challenging economic periods like we are currently experiencing.  More often then not consumers just seem to be able organize resources to meet priorities, which is always fueled by a compelling inner motivation and emotional energy in a quest to pursue interests consistent with desires and values.
 
What is peculiar in the arena of health/wellness care is the phenomenon where a health care consumer will convince themselves that receiving regular or even periodic care is unaffordable, yet wind up paying many times that amount per month on activities and/or products that are either unnecessary, frivolous, or ironically quite harmful to their health.  Does anyone see a problem with this?

Invariably when having an open/honest financial discussion with an established or prospective patient who expresses an affordability issue, the dialogue generally presents itself this way;
 
Dr. Fred:  So (patient name) I am aware you feel it is financially difficult or impossible to start or continue care – is that true?
 
Patient:  Yes Dr. Fred I just can’t afford regular / frequent visits at this time due to……..
 
Dr. Fred:  So instead of feeling financially pressured to be here 2 – 3 times a week right now (even though that may be optimum) – why not come once a week, or twice a month, or even once a month – certainly you understand that some care is much better then none at all, yes?  You do understand the significance of supportive/wellness care and how in the long run it will save you much time and money on ill health, and unnecessary suffering & pain, yes?
 
Patient:  Yes definitely – I see your point, and really do love your care and feel so much better and healthier because of it, but…. I can’t even afford once-a-month visits.
 
Dr. Fred:  Really?  Is that true?  Do you know this to be absolutely true?  You may be correct and I don’t want to invade your privacy and personal space – but I want to ask you to make some definitive calculations on your own.  Make a list of everything no matter how small, inexpensive, or insignificant it may be that you spend money on every month (even a candy bar) – excluding your fixed expenses like rent, mortgage, utilities, car, debts / loans, etc.
 
Let’s see….
 
- Alcohol/beer/wine/soft drinks = $______
- Junk food like candy, cakes, ice cream, pizza, coffee, etc. = $______
- Cigarettes, over-the-counter drugs/recreational drugs, etc. = $______
- Car washes, maid service, lawn service, restaurants, etc. = $______
- Movies/ DVD’s/ CD’s/cable TV/magazines/other entertainment = $______
- Health club/yoga classes/other club-related expenses = $______
- Other non-essential items, and all other ‘luxury’ expenses i.e.;
   facials, manicures, sports, concerts, etc. = $______         
 
 
You get my drift, yes?  I did this accounting process myself a few years ago and it was an eye-opening experience to say the least.  I embarked on a truly honest assessment, stripping away all feeble rationalizations. The immediate shocking revelation that came to my awareness was how much hard-earned money I spent on products and services that were either unnecessary, addiction-driven, distraction/boredom-motivated, and downright frivolous and/or unhealthy. Interesting how most of our purchases are indeed – as many behavioral experts contend - emotionally fueled, and often ‘impulsive’ even though the mind will cleverly convince us otherwise, as was the case for me in the above experience.
As I realized more clearly the self-deception that was going on, my game of rationalization and false excuses ended for me.
 
We have an old saying in Chiropractic, “If your spine was on your face you would take better care of it!”  This expresses the simple idea that because our spine is hidden from view we don’t even know it exists. In contrast, if we notice another wrinkle, blemish, discoloration on our faces in the mirror we tend to become highly motivated in dealing with these issues.  Observe how our population becomes so overly obsessed with these six square inches of flesh in the front of our heads, whereas the all-important conduit of life and nerve energy – our spinal system - is so easily neglected.
 
Only if we notice a distortion, or feel pain, pressure, or conscious tension in, and or, around our vertebral column it concerns us.  Yet we all know that waiting for symptoms to arise and get worse before receiving care is quite risky, if not outright dangerous, as seen in many instances like heart attacks and cancer where often no warning signals ever arise until later stages. Spinal degeneration similarly takes years to advance before we become conscious of back pain, stiffness, or other more severe problems.  In fact its presence isn’t even seen on x-rays until the middle and later stages of the process. Do I even need to even mention the emotional and financial toll it takes on our lives when we wait for potential problems to eventually become major difficulties?
 
Admittedly, we in the Chiropractic profession need to do a more effective job in educating the public about regular prevention, maintenance, and advancement of spinal care in a similar manner to how the dental profession successfully accomplished this over the past one hundred years or so.  Most Americans have their teeth and oral health checked a few times a year without even debating it in their minds – many with no dental insurance. Its importance is self-evident.  Same as with our automobile maintenance mentioned above – and remember car maintenance and minor repair expenses are not covered by insurance either.  I ask you – is your spine that houses your central nervous system which in turn animates every cell, tissue, organ, and system in your body any less important then our cars and our teeth?!
 
Does this make sense to you? Please contemplate these ideas as seriously as anything else you may ponder in your life.  Maintaining and enhancing health, well-being, and the quality of our lives is certainly worth that kind of focused consideration… isn’t it?
 
Your feedback, questions, and comments are enthusiastically welcomed. So feel free to chat with me in the office or email me at:
kingsburywellness@gmail.com
 
 
Wishing You Abundant Health, Joy, and Vitality,
~ DocFreddy

 

 

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1.  My clinical approach is about true healing, wellness, and advancement within the human experience. One does not need the 'excuse' of a condition, symptom, or pain to be accepted to receive this care - just as a person doesn't need a symptom to go to the health club, yoga-meditation class, to eat nutritiously,  etc.  Greater wellness, somatic awareness, and higher quality of life is what we're ultimately seeking.  However, if you are concerned about 'problem' areas in your body then experiencing healing sessions with Dr. Fred has been found to dramatically enhance and accelerate the healing process.  


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"Network Spinal Analysis and Somatorespiratory Integration, Donny Epstein's revolutionary methodologies, are amongst the most powerful sources of personal transformation I have ever experienced or seen.  They produce embodied and empowered strategies that are both sustainable and enjoyable for enhanced human resourcefulness and wellness. I am stronger, more inspired, creative, and healthy because of this work.  It has personally and professionally helped me to maximize my ability to contribute to others"
  ~ Anthony Robbins


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"The body weeps the tears the eyes refuse to shed."
   -- Donald Epstein, D.C.

This month at Kingsbury Wellness…

Dr. Fred's Living Room 'Show & Tell' Program We arrange a convenient date and time for me to come to your home and present a lively, fun, and interactive lecture / demonstration of NSA and SRI to your friends / family /co-workers / neighbors / whoever....  This is a perfect way to introduce everyone you know to our world of healing and the wonderful benefits of our approach.                                     I'll bring DocFreddy's famous popcorn and other healthy treats!

Every Saturday Morning - 9:30 - 11:30 am
Spinal Healing & Amazing Breakfast Feast - come hungry!  Feel free to bring family and friends to introduce them to Dr. Fred and his healing approach.

Meditation Evening with Dr. Freddy
Next Date:  To be announced - stay tuned!

7pm - 8:30pm
Dr. Freddy will discuss using consciousness and breath to 'touch' subtle energy centers and thereby transform the body and emotions, and will lead a guided mediation to experience that.  Open to the public... please invite your friends.